You know what’s wild to me?
The amount of women who follow our brand who can literally hype up everyone else around them…
but the second it comes to themselves, suddenly they become — critical, or even worse — silent.
“I need to lose 20 pounds.”
“My stomach isn’t flat.”
“I’m too awkward.”
“I don’t know how to look like that.”
“My husband wouldn’t like it.”
“I’m too old.”
“I’m not photogenic.”
“I’ll do it after…”
After what exactly?
After you magically wake up one morning with newfound confidence and no cellulite? 😏
Because let me (lovingly) tell you something…
The women who walk into our studio?
Yeah… They’re not walking in like they’ve got it all figured out.
They’re walking in terrified.
Nervous laughter.
Scared.
Second-guessing everything.
Picking themselves apart before we’ve even taken a single photo.
But here’s what you need to understand —
They walk out different.
They walk OUT different than the way they walked IN.
Not because they suddenly became thinner.
Not because they learned how to “be sexy.”
Not because life finally became perfect.
But because for once… they stopped talking themselves out of something they wanted in life.
Thaaaat’s the part nobody talks about enough.
Sometimes the transformation isn’t the photos.
It’s finally realizing how much of your life has been spent waiting to feel “enough” in order to fully live in it.
And honestly?
I can guarantee you that women are nothing short of EXHAUSTED from fighting themselves all the time.
We will spend money on everyone else.
Show up for everyone else.
Celebrate everyone else.
Encourage everyone else.
But when it comes to ourselves, suddenly we turn into strict accountants, therapists that only say NO, or personal trainers that come at you with a whip! 😂
I see it every single day.
And listen… if boudoir isn’t your thing, that is truly ok!
Because this isn’t even just about boudoir.
It’s about how often women deny themselves (are you ready for the list??):
Joy, peace, confidence, experiences, visibility, celebration, rest, attention, affection, or excitement because they think they aren’t thinking about themselves!
We’re told that’s selfish.
And that mindset – will rob you of a full life.
You do not become worthy after a 20 pound weight loss.
You do not become deserving after you suffer through everyone else’s struggles.
You do not unlock you inner beauty by being superwoman at work.
You’re allowed to exist during the messy middle too.
And maybe this is your sign to stop overthinking yourself out of everything.
Because one day you’re going to realize you spent years criticizing a woman who was actually just waiting to be loved — by you.
And honestly?
She deserves better than that. 💋