Over the past few weeks, I’ve been asking our fans and VIPs what they want to talk more about—really talk about.
Not the surface stuff. Not the highlight reels. The real-life, deep-down, “me too” kind of topics.
And you know what topped the list?
Mental health.
If you know me—whether in real life or just through this page—you probably already know this is a topic I’m deeply familiar with… and fiercely passionate about. So let’s dive in.
Today, I’m starting with mental overload—because we all experience it.
It’s walking into a room and immediately starting to mentally reorganize it while thinking about dinner, remembering your friend’s birthday, feeling bad about a text you haven’t replied to, and wondering when you last had a real moment to breathe.
You’re not alone.
You’re just carrying what so many of us do, silently and daily: the mental load.
😵♀️ The Silent Stress Women Live With
Here’s the thing most people don’t see:
It’s not just about being busy.
It’s the constant mental juggling—the checklists in your head, the conversations you’re replaying, the responsibilities no one else even realizes you’re carrying.
And let’s be honest—those responsibilities look different for every one of us.
We all have our own internal lists, our own ways of managing the chaos, and our own expectations of how we “should” be handling it.
But it’s so easy to get caught in the trap of self-judgment—questioning whether we’re doing enough, doing it right, doing it fast enough.
And sometimes, it’s even easier to look at someone else and think, “Well, I would’ve done that better” or “She’s making it harder than it has to be.”
We’re all trying to keep it together in our own way.
And yet—half (or more) of us are still pretending we’re fine.
We’re smiling through it. Powering through it.
Texting “I’m good!” when we’re barely hanging on.
Reposting quotes about self-care while pouring from an empty cup.
The truth is:
The mental load is invisible until it breaks you.
And by the time it does, we’re too burned out to explain how we got there.
🤐 Why Don’t We Talk About It?
Because somewhere along the way, being overwhelmed became normal.
We’ve practically been taught that being overwhelmed should be worn like a badge.
We joke about being “so busy” like it’s a personality trait.
We keep pushing, because slowing down feels like failure—and asking for help? That feels even worse.
Why?
Why do we feel like less for asking for help—especially when the people we’d be asking are usually the ones closest to us?
The ones who love us, see us, and wouldn’t bat an eye at the admission that we’re human.
But in our minds?
We don’t want to be a burden.
We don’t want to seem like we can’t handle it.
We don’t want to make anyone else uncomfortable.
And maybe hardest of all—we don’t want to admit it to ourselves.
This is the moment where something has to shift.
Because here’s the truth:
Being constantly overwhelmed isn’t a lifestyle. It’s a warning sign.
And it doesn’t mean you’re weak.
It means you’re human.
💡 So What Can We Actually Do About It?
Here are a few things I’ve learned—or found to be genuinely helpful.
(And ladies—please drop your own tips and tricks in the comments too. We’re all figuring this out together.)
1. Say it out loud.
Seriously. “I’m overwhelmed. I need a minute.”
Just naming it gives that moment—and that emotion—less power.
2. Claim one thing that’s just for you.
A morning playlist. A 10-minute walk. A skincare routine you guard like it’s sacred.
Even your boudoir session? That’s not just a photoshoot—it’s a reclaiming.
(Yes, I went there. 😌)
3. Learn to be okay with saying “no.”
Not everything deserves your yes.
In fact, not everything needs your yes.
Not every group chat needs a reply.
Not every task is your responsibility.
“No” is not negative—it’s necessary.
4. Ask for help. Like, actually ask.
Say it out loud: “Can you take care of this?”
And if you’re not ready for the ask, be direct: “I need you to take care of this.”
Let the people who love you show up for you. You’d do the same for them.
❤️ You’re Doing So Much. And You Deserve More Than Just Getting Through the Day.
This space—this group—isn’t just about pretty pictures or sessions (although yes, we love those).
It’s about truth.
It’s about taking off the filter and saying, “Hey… I’m tired too. And I’m trying.”
So if you’ve been carrying the mental load quietly—or loudly (because ladies, I know some of us have been screaming it too!)—
I see you.
And I promise you: you are not alone in this.
You’re doing more than you realize, and you don’t have to do it all alone.
Let’s start the small changes today:
Breathe.
Let someone in.
Ask for help.
Say no without guilt—and yes without explanation.
If this resonated with you, drop a 💬 or just say “me too” in the comments.
Let’s talk about this stuff. Let’s support each other through it.
Because when one of us speaks up, it makes it easier for the next woman to do the same.
