I think a lot of women wake up one day and quietly realize something uncomfortable:
Somewhere along the way… we stopped building a life that actually felt like it was our own.
I’m not saying that means it’s a bad or unsuccessful life. We’re not feeling ungrateful.
It’s just that … it really doesn’t feel fully ours.
We are conditioned from SUCH a young age to become adaptable, agreeable, accommodating, helpful, understanding, selfless, available, and all around “good.” (I feel like I just summarized that America Ferrera speech at the end of “Barbie” in that one sentence!)
And after years of doing that, a lot of us become really skilled at managing everyone else’s comfort while slowly abandoning ourselves in the process.
We make decisions based on:
- what creates the least conflict
- what makes the most sense to everyone else
- what keeps people from being upset
- what feels expected
- what avoids judgment
- what keeps us liked
And eventually you look around and realize…
Wait.
Do I even LIKE this?
Do I even WANT this?
That realization can feel heavy. And that’s when we start feeling that pull to reclaim our lives.
Reclaiming your life doesn’t always come from some dramatic moment where you suddenly everything feels surreal and all the pieces just fall into place.
Usually… that awakening moment starts in a much quieter way.
Sometimes it starts with:
- not overexplaining yourself
- saying no without a 4 paragraph text as to “why”
- getting comfortable with the fact that not everyone is going to like your choices
- asking yourself what YOU actually enjoy
- creating routines that support not only your peace but also your productivity
- setting boundaries (no really, girl – it’s necessary!)
- choosing the things that feel right for YOU — not just the things that make everyone else comfortable
So many of us are waiting for permission for the way we want to live in.
But – from who??
From the people who are only comfortable with the version of you that benefits them?
Girl – they are n-e-v-e-r going to give you permission to be something less convenient to them – so stop expecting them to say “it’s okay”.
Some people won’t understand it. Some people won’t LIKE it.
And to make this change in your life… that has to become okay. —- with YOU.
Because this is YOUR life.
Not a group project. 😂
You are allowed to change.
In fact, you are supposed to!
You’re supposed to evolve, change your mind, want more for your life, enjoy more peace – joy – rest, gain confidence.
You’re supposed to.
We are designed to. Destined to.
Building a life that feels like yours requires intentionality.
You have to do it on purpose.
One of the most powerful things a woman can do is become fully herself… so let’s start living our lives that way.